By Guest Blogger Kathryn Elliott
As my son sometimes tells me, “We’re the ones who are going to pick out your nursing home.”
My husband and I had two opposite role models to follow about sharing personal information with adult children.
My father, a bank manager, would come home upset some evenings because he was dealing with the widow of a colleague, who had no idea about her husband’s salary, where the money was, and how she should manage. This was the 1950’s when being a wife and homemaker was a major role for women.
He was determined that my mother and his children would never be in such a position. He told my mother that since he managed other people’s money, she could run the household finances.
As my parents aged, and my brother and I grew into responsible adults, they were open with us. My father regularly showed me his filing system and records and my parents talked openly about their wills.