Former NHL Player Patrick O’Sullivan suffered from his abusive father

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The most heart-rending interview showing how badly parenting can go wrong when parents live vicariously through their children was aired on CBC’s “The Current” yesterday.

Former NHL hockey player Patrick O’Sullivan was emotionally and physically abused at the hands of his father, a would-be hockey player who never fulfilled his dreams.  Patrick O’Sullivan told how his father John would return home late at night after a few drinks, wake up the sleeping boy and force him to exercise for hours to improve his hockey.  He made the young Patrick run home in his hockey gear after practice, no matter what the time or weather. He beat him, kicked him and called him names. Read More

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Helicopter parents – not us!

Chittagong, Bangladesh

Chittagong, Bangladesh

We’re not helicopter parents.  Oh no, not us.

When my 27 year old son recently left for Bangladesh to volunteer in an orphanage for three months, my husband and I drove him to the airport.  My husband dropped us off at the departure gate while he parked the car.

My son and I busied ourselves getting the suitcases on a trolley and then sailed into the airport so he could check his baggage.  I clucked around a stand filling out lost suitcase forms for him and when my husband arrived he wanted to know if our son would like him to accompany him to the check-in desk.  My son shrugged his shoulders and indicated that would be fine, thought the better of it, and refused his offer. Read More

Have you ever felt like a helicopter parent?

Helicopter parents are no doubt the topic du jour amongst those trying to understand current styles of parenting adult children.

Hovering over your children in their late teens and older generally gets a bad rap.

For another take on this, check out “When is it OK to be a Helicopter Parent” over at the Huffington Post:

“You’ve heard the critiques of so-called “helicopter parents” who can’t stay away from their kids, smothering them with so much love and attention that they never develop self-reliance. Narcissistic, dependent, and unable to strike out on their own, your over-loved children expect everyone to wait on them hand and foot. They’ll be doomed to a life of constant whining when they don’t get their way, and will never be able to support themselves financially or emotionally.” READ MORE…

I’ll be writing more on this topic later.

Have you ever felt like a helicopter parent? Please don’t hesitate to leave a comment below.

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Wonder if you’re too involved? Why today’s parents are more involved with their adult children

Do you ever feel like you’re much more involved with your adult children than your parents are or were with you? You’re not the only one!

It’s common knowledge that today’s parents are far more involved with their adult children than parents were a generation ago. That’s because the environment for parenting adult children has changed significantly over the last 30 years and with this new environment, current parents of adult children find themselves doing and saying things that their own parents would never have done.

We find ourselves involved and if we are not, we are wondering why. The idea of a close relationship appeals to many of us, and we find ourselves butting in when perhaps we should be butting out.

So let’s dive a little deeper and explore the many factors that have created this new environment for parenting.

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