My friend Mary has been in despair about her 29 year old son Jeff for some time. He often treats her with contempt.
Jeff has been living in Vancouver for the past five years where he works as a manager for a large department store. He stays with Mary when he returns to Ottawa to visit family and friends.
When she asks him how his day went, he might reply that it is none of her business, or he gives a one word answer. He leaves dishes in the sink after making himself some food and ignores Mary’s request that he clean up after himself. When Mary planned a pot luck birthday party for his sister, Jeff told Mary she just wanted to get out of work. (And what’s wrong with that, I might ask!)
Jeff also fails to return his mother’s telephone calls or e-mails. Mary is always the one to initiate contact and then she waits, hoping she will hear from him.
The most recent of Jeff’s transgressions is that he failed to answer a previously arranged telephone call with Mary. There was no e-mail advising Mary that he wouldn’t be available and no follow-up e-mail apologizing for not answering the call.
Mary decided that it was time to act. She sent him this e-mail: Read More